Teacher’s Wishes | Puberty is the Only Way to Growth

Dear parents, do you still remember what toddler is like? Do you think your baby is really cute at that time and want to save every moment? You walked with him with his little hand in yours. You are always encouraging and indulging your children. But you know that if you want him to learn how to walk, you must learn how to let go first. You also know that if you let go, he may fall down, but you have to believe that this is part of his growth.

As the child grows up, the stage of "letting go" is coming quietly even if you are not ready yet. You will gradually find that your child doesn’t like listening to you anymore, you can not accept his dress and behavior. Your little angle makes you start to doubt and think "what kind of child do I have? How could he behave like this? What exactly is going on? What should I do now?" Congratulations, your child has reached puberty. Welcome to the world of teenagers. You are "upgraded".

When parents begin to accompany their children back to their youth, it seems that they forget what they have done in the past. Although I have learned education psychology as a teacher, it seems that I haven't experienced puberty after being poured by the cold water of reality over and over again. While I was bullied by the children in the class one after another, I began to study how to effectively help children and parents. Children of this age are generally psychologically separated from their parents. Whether they like it or not, their bodies and minds begin to mature, however, strong hormonal changes cause sudden emotional fluctuation. They begin to get confused and think:

1. Who am I? Why am I alive? How could this world be like that? What does this have to do with me?

2. I've grown up. Why do parents and teachers keep nagging and controlling me? It's all nonsense.

3. How is my performance in the eyes of others? How to attract other people's attention? Or I just want to be alone.

4. Is it cool to do this? Although I know it doesn't seem right, I just want to do this.

5. What can I do? What will I do? What am I going to do ?

Adolescents think more than just these. Many ideas are rather baffling to adults, however, this is not only a necessary process of thinking towards maturity, but also a process to establish their "three values". Adolescence is an important period of taking knowledge and taking a big step in life, which will inevitably require the help of parents and teachers. I would like to give parents a few suggestions based on my own experience:

1. When your child is willing to talk with you, please keep listening with curiosity. Avoid constant nagging.

2. View questions rationally from children's points of view and give empathy. Avoid arranging everything for children and depriving children of their right to grow up. Encourage them to face the problem independently. Accompany them to practice the correct methods and techniques of dealing with problems.

3. Set a good example for your children as parents are the best teachers of their children.

4. Don't talk to your children about anything when you are in a bad mood, your peace of mind will infect them.

5. Children are the mirror of their parents. Parents also need to "grow up".

6. Make sure that the message of love is passed on to children in the right way.

Some suggestions to students:

1. Begin to learn to accept and respect others, even if you think he is not as excellent as you.

2. Be active to your unknown knowledge. Knowledge will not deceive you. Being honest to yourself will prevent others from deceiving you.

3. Learn to concentrate and arrange your time well. Don't put off what you can do today till tomorrow and don't give yourself too much ground for slackness and delay. "Never put off till tomorrow what may be done today. Tomorrow never comes". Life is really a marathon. Everyone who arrives at the finish line starts from the first step and accumulates from each step, however, different pays have different results.

4. Cherish the people around you, cherish all the beauty and goodness of this world. Be tolerant to unimportant problems. Cherish your own body, cherish the desire that you pursue in your heart.

5. Treat others in the way that you wish others to treat you, and learn to be the one you expect.

6. In fact, you are great, but you don't know.

Youth is just a process of growth, not the end. So let’s fight, children, don’t leave any regrets. Dear parents, let go of your worries, as when you learn to let go, you know that he might fall down, but he can get back up again.